When it comes to building a healthy (and sexy!) marriage when you're not only husband-and-wife but mom-and-dad, too -- what should come first? Your spouse or your kids? Relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women... is Men says it's your hubby! “It’s not that the kids matter ‘less’,” Orlando says. “It’s that the marriage is the backbone of the house and everyone needs to see it and feel it.” Orlando’s suggestion: Make a beeline for your spouse the minute you walk in the door, and give him a big, fat kiss. It will make your partner feel special (and -- bonus -- your kids will feel secure).