Secrets of a Healthy Marriage -- with Kids!

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Secrets of a Healthy Marriage -- with Kids!

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Jenna McCarthy on Jun 29, 2011 at 6:01PM

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Put Each Other First (Yes, Before the Kids)

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a Jenna McCarthy on Jun 22, 2011 at 10:15AM

Folks sort of flipped when Grammy-winner Seal insisted in an interview that his supermodel wife Heidi Klum is number one at all times... followed in importance by their four kids. (The collective consensus: “Before the sweet, helpless children? Children should come first!”) But relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women... is Men wholeheartedly agrees with the soulful singer. “It’s not that the kids matter ‘less’,” Orlando says. “It’s that the marriage is the backbone of the house and everyone needs to see it and feel it.” Orlando’s suggestion: Make a beeline for your spouse the minute you walk in the door, and give him a big, fat kiss. It will make your partner feel special (and -- bonus -- your kids will feel secure).