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Secrets of a Healthy Marriage -- with Kids!

Yes, it's possible to keep the romance alive, even after you have kids. Here's how... (16 Photos)

Jenna McCarthy on May 6, 2013 at 11:53PM

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Secrets of a Healthy Marriage -- with Kids!

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“Being your partner’s biggest fan is one of the key predictors of a great relationship,” Carter says. A fan doesn’t undermine your every decision or declaration, but backs it up with enthusiastic support. When your kids try to play the “But daddy said we could do it” card, resist the urge to fire back with “Well mommy says you can’t.” (This will admittedly require an excess of restraint.) A consistent show of solidarity also lets your kids know that together, mom and dad are a force to be reckoned with.