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A second option is to discuss your concerns about your child's sex life with someone else: your mate, your friends, or your minister, priest, or rabbi. But that alone is not going to solve the problem, because your kids can't read your mind any better than you can read theirs.
Then there's the third choice. Talk with your teens. Which means, you're giving clear and specific information about the possible consequences of being sexually active, including sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and broken hearts--while listening a lot, too. Don't count on your conversations about life and love, sex and birth control, happening in just two or three let's-go-out-for-a-hamburger sessions. You both might be embarrassed, but chances are you'll both get better with practice.
Of course, your kids may not agree with you or follow your wishes. Or maybe you're a single parent who dates and you're not sure what you should be doing sexually, much less what your kids ought to be doing. But studies repeatedly show your teens are looking to you for guidance, no matter how aloof they may seem at the time. This is true regardless of how many doubts you may have about their honesty on the subject of sex and personal experience.
If you don't want your daughters or sons to be sexually active while still teenagers, or still in high school, or still living at home, speak with them. Even if it's okay with you that your teens are sexually active while still living with you at home, there's still plenty to talk about, including birth control.