Sex Toy How-To's

ON Jan 1, 1999 at 12:00PM

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What is a good sex toy for someone (me) who has never used one before? I want to be experimental with my new boyfriend, but I'm shy and don't know how to get started. --B

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Dear B:

This is a great question, and it shows your intent to become a sexually assertive woman. You go, girl! Sex toys are a great way to achieve sexual enrichment with a partner and add spice to a sagging sex life. They can also help women who have a tough time reaching orgasm or who are alone and looking for ways to enhance their solo pleasure.

I just finished making a video called Erotic Seduction: Sex Toys (available from www.lovingsex.com or www.yoursexcoach.com) with Juli Ashton, the adult star and host of a series on couples' sexual enhancement. In it, we offer educational tips on the wide range of sex toys in the marketplace, with entertaining, explicit scenes to demonstrate their use. I also highly recommend another video called The Complete Guide to Sex Toys and Devices from Pacific Media Entertainment (available from 800-262-7367 or at www.yoursexcoach.com). In it the couples demonstrate an incredible and delectable range of options for their mutual pleasuring. Both of these are hot to watch and good teaching tools. You and your new beau could benefit from seeing them together.

As for which sex toys to try, I always say to experiment with what appeals to you and then stick with what works best. If you are looking for a way to stimulate yourself to orgasm with a partner, you may want to try a vibrating internal device. Go easy. Pick what feels nice and comfy. Start with a small toy, such as a vibrating silver egg for vaginal stimulation, the Clit-Blaster vibrating pellet with penile sleeve or Juli's Pocket Rocket mini-vibrator for clitoral stimulation, then build up to the more elaborate and expensive toys.

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