Sexy After Cancer: 12 Tips on Getting Back Your Sex Life

Expert tips on finding your way back to a sex life that works for you (13 Photos)

Patty Brisben and Keri Peterson on Oct 1, 2013 at 1:45PM

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Sexy After Cancer: 12 Tips on Getting Back Your Sex Life

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Make Sex a Priority

I have more important things to worry about, you tell yourself. It doesn’t even feel good anymore, you insist. Is working on my sex life even worth the effort? From here, things can quickly devolve from infrequent sex to no sex at all. Why? The less you do it, the less you want it. So don’t just have sex (sometimes / once every other month / when there’s a full moon / when your partner begs on their hands and knees). Have it regularly. Put it into your calendar if you have to, as contrived as it might seem. Having sex regularly will rev up your sex drive. How? Having sex increases the production of testosterone in your system, and testosterone is the hormone that’s most responsible for your libido levels. Soon enough, if you stick to your schedule, sex won’t feel contrived anymore. Rather, you’ll want it (all the time, you naughty minx).

Excerpted from Sexy Ever After: Intimacy Post Cancer, by Patty Brisben & Keri Peterson. Copyright 2011 by Patty Brisben & Keri Peterson

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