Photo Credit: Courtesy of Bonnie Crowder
Lots of things have changed in my life since having kids. For instance, I sing Jonas Brothers songs all day long (even when my children are nowhere to be seen). I no longer have to worry about filling up all of my frustrating “free time” since I don’t have any. Oh, and my once taut tummy now looks as if someone slipped a big, wrinkly Shar-Pei suit over it. (We’re not going to even talk about my boobs, okay?)
With the occasional exception, after a kid or two, the baby-factory never looks quite the same. You’ve got your sagging, your scars, your stretch marks, probably a few extra pounds, some nice cellulite just for fun, and sometimes enough floppy folds of skin to craft an entire extra person out of.
If you’re feeling depressed about your postpartum shape, there’s surgery, therapy, yoga (if you avoid looking at your stomach when in the "cow" position) or the awesome website The Shape of a Mother. Created to expose what founder Bonnie Crowder calls “one of society’s biggest secrets,” the site features untouched and often brutally candid photos of actual postpartum bodies -- in all of their real (read: not airbrushed, nip-tucked or trained-to-perfection) glory.
Crowder, a single, homeschooling stay-at-home mom of two, started the site after accidentally catching a glimpse of another woman’s not-so-flat abs—and realizing that women everywhere could benefit from knowing what’s really going on underneath each other’s clothes. She invites women of all ages, shapes and sizes to submit photos of their boobs, bums and bellies (faces and personal info are optional); viewers are invited to add their own comments. Seeing as women can be awfully catty at times, the comments are shockingly, heartwarmingly supportive. 'You can totally wear a bikini!' 'Your body is beautiful!' And my own very favorite, 'Great breasts!'
With boobs like that, people won’t notice much else. Major kudos to Crowder for giving us a realistic alternative to the latest Hollywood Hot Mama tabloid spread.