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Are you for or against foreskin? In case you haven't heard, there's a debate about circumcision raging in California right now, as San Francisco's proposed ban on the practice "gains momentum," according to The New York Times, and a similar proposal in Santa Monica just got dropped.
Since covering this topic for iVoices on iVillage, I've come to realize that there are as many points of view as there are families in this world, making it easy to feel confused about which decision is best for your child. The general sentiment among the people I interviewed was a wish that circumcision wasn’t a common practice -- coupled with a strong opinion that it shouldn't be banned by law.
As parents, making decisions that directly affect our children takes on a whole new meaning. We try to inform ourselves with an overwhelming amount of information. We try to adhere to cultural, religious and societal traditions. We try to listen to our gut feelings. And in the end, no matter what we choose, we’re left to wonder, “Did I make the right decision?”
For my husband and me, deciding to keep our two sons’ foreskin intact came easy, and we're 100% comfortable with our decision. My husband is uncircumcised and I couldn’t bear the thought of snipping off any part of the bodies my sons were born with. But I feel like we're in the minority, because many of my friends have shared their difficulties with partners, doctors and family members who disagreed with them, as well as regrets over their choice.
To be honest, I feel positive about the mere existence of a proposed ban because it usually takes extreme measures to get people to talk, think and re-evaluate what’s important to them. I can appreciate that supporters of a ban are really just thinking of the babies who have no choice in the matter. And while not circumcising our sons was the right personal decision for my family, I’m thankful we had the freedom to make it.
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Christine Candelaria is one of iVillage's iVoices. You can read her blog or follow her on Twitter @theAumsMama