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This week on the iVillage message boards, moms are talking about birth control for sexually active teens. Community moderator cmkarla asks, “If your daughter told you she was sexually active, what method of birth control would you suggest she use?”
Having grown up in a Catholic household where we did not talk about sex, I was surprised to see how open parents were to helping their kids obtain birth control.
“I would be very willing to pay for birth control for my daughter,” says lovingthechaosof3. “I would buy condoms for her; I have no problem with that. My biggest fear is that she will be afraid or embarrassed to tell me if she was having sex.”
“I would definitely help her get birth control and pay for it if necessary. I would not give her any excuse to not take it. The method I would recommend, if it works well for her, would be the patch,” agrees quinclyl.
Am I behind the times, or have moms become unbelievably cool since I was a kid? When the time comes, I would like to think I’ll be just as willing as these women to discuss sex with my son or daughter. And I’d have to vote for condoms, as opposed to other birth control methods, to make sure they’re protected against STDs. Of course, more important that supplying contraceptives is making sure they understand the risks involved in not using them. That, to me, seems like the biggest challenge. Do you have sexually active teens at home? How have you handled the safe sex discussion? Chime in below.
The other hot topic this week in the iVillage community is on the Pain Issues Support board, where members are discussing the idea that negative emotions lead to disease.
“I have a neighbor who is very into Louise Hay and her beliefs that we bring illness on ourselves through our emotions and thoughts. She kept asking me why I was afraid of moving forward in life, because Hay says that is why we develop illnesses like rheumatoid arthritis. [She also said that] I was in denial and until I accepted that, I would never get well,” says promiseplease, who suffers from rheumatoid arthritis.
“I do not believe anyone makes themselves get an illness. I do think our thoughts can impact our pain,” says a-new-me394.
The fact is, the mind and body are inseparable, and strong emotions can trigger physiological reactions in the body. Stressful situations can lead to heart attacks, chronic stress can elevate blood pressure, and long-lasting depression and loneliness appear to be contributing factors in chronic inflammation and certain diseases. Conversely, chronic disease, as with rheumatoid arthritis, can also lead to depression. Staying emotionally well can help many people with chronic conditions live healthier, fuller lives. Mind-body techniques such as meditation or certain types of talk therapy, like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), may help people cope with their pain. Telling someone that it’s their fault, or that they’re in denial, is only going to heap more anxiety and negativity onto the situation.
As member mdsblu1 says, “Yes, there is a mind-body connection, but self-blame is not healthy. It just causes more pain and more problems.”
What do you think? Join the conversation on the Pain Issues Support board message boards.