Show You're Interested-Without Appearing Desperate

Plus: Is he flirting with you?

It's the question that hovers nervously at the back of every single girl's mind when she meets a guy who seems a. attractive, b. single and c. sane: "Am I acting too interested?" In fact, many of us play it so cool that we underplay our interest to the extent that we give the complete opposite impression. Warning: Distant can backfire just as much, if not more, than desperate.

A good flirt isn't desperate, aggressive or in the slightest bit offensive. Even if it turns out the guy you're flirting with is attached or uninterested, a good flirt will still leave him feeling complimented, rather than offended. The trick is to use techniques you feel comfortable with, and to adjust the volume depending on his reaction. It's easier than it sounds, so slide into that sexy little black number and try these simple "I'm available" signals next time you're out with the girls.

  • Wear high-heeled shoes: Women worry about the size of their bums, but bums that stick out are consistently judged as sexier than little bums that don't. High heels, on average, make your bottom protrude by 25 percent more (emphasis on the word "protrude," as opposed to "makes your bum look bigger"). If you really want to make him sit up and pay attention, team the heels with a pair of tight-ish jeans and put your hand in the back pocket.


  • Dangle a shoe: Shoes say a lot about your sexual mood. Sometimes you'll slip our foot in and out of a shoe (no prizes for guessing what you're secretly thinking when you're doing that one). Or you'll dangle it on the tip of our toes (keeping him dangling at the same time).



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