Sibling rivalry:Four myths about infant jealousy

Jealous (adjective). Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position. From Latin zelus, zeal. See zeal. Zeal (noun). Enthusiastic devotion to a cause, an ideal, or a goal and tireless diligence in its furtherance. Synonym: passion. The American Heritage Dictionary

Nothing good comes from jealousy. Indeed, jealousy and goodness are mutually exclusive traits. To most of us, jealousy is the essence of malice and evil. This most reviled characteristic represents the antithesis of kindness, compassion and virtue. Jealousy is usually suffered by those whose inner lives have been corrupted by harsh, early emotional experiences, rendering them vulnerable and insecure, or those who have had the misfortune of being born with unredeemably jaundiced souls. To some, jealousy represents mental illness, neurosis, or perhaps a character defect or immaturity. To others, jealousy is a sign of immorality stemming from inadequate religious conviction.

For anyone aficted with jealousy, love relationships are destined to be anything but wholesome or pleasurable, because inevitably, jealousy’s poisonous tentacles will dissipate love and turn it into hatred. The relationship most tainted by jealousy is that in which it rst arises: the sibling relationship.

None of this is true. Strategy one toward preventing sibling rivalry starts by understanding what jealousy is, and what it isn't.

Myth Number One
Jealousy Starts with the Arrival of a Second Child

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