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14 Signs You Might Be Bad In Bed

Find out if your sexual M.O makes the grade (15 Photos)

Stacey Stapleton on May 7, 2012 at 3:11PM

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14 Signs You Might Be Bad In Bed

You like to believe your performance between the sheets is stellar and sexy -- but what if your guy doesn't think you're quite the hubba-hubba, sexy love-makin' machine you think you are? We spoke to several sex therapists and relationship experts about what men want in the bedroom to find the things that make a woman bad in bed. While not everyone can become a rock star (er, porn star) overnight, if you find yourself frequently doing (or not doing) these things, it's time to step up your sexual routine.

The Bedroom Looks Like Your Office
Why it might mean you're bad in bed: Nothing sends a guy’s libido plummeting like reminders of stressful work life. "So keep your daily grind and any symbols of real-world responsibilities (like computers, stacks of bills and buzzing blackberries) out of the boudoir," says Cynthia Gentry, author of What Men Really Want in Bed and What Women Really Want in Bed.

Be better in bed: "Reserve your bed exclusively for sleep and sex," says Gentry. “Which means resisting the urge to curl up with the latest office memo." (We've yet read an office memo that's a turn-on!) Or, do some sexy reading instead: Pull out the Kama Sutra, an erotic best-seller or some good old fashioned Anais Nin and read out loud to each other.