Recognize that some of your time will be spent in activities out of your control. Getting upset while waiting in traffic or sitting in a doctor's waiting room, is a waste of time. In fact, "waiting," might be the best time to relax or plan things you would not normally do. Ask yourself, "Will something horrible happen to me if I don't do this right now?" Although it's best not to put off what can be done immediately, if you answer "No," chances are you are too tired or stressed out and should save this task for another time. Carry roladex cards in your purse or pocket and jot everything down on those. Give up writing notes, addresses and phone numbers on envelopes and napkins that forever get lost or disposed of. Put the cards in your roladex file when you get home. On weekends, give to yourself and your child. Try not to think of work. You will be more productive when Monday morning comes around. The best way to utilize time wisely is to live in the "here and now." Even chores such as cleaning your kid's room can result in quality time if you both allow yourself the fun of doing it. Anything can feel good if you are enjoying yourself. Don't know how to do this? Start "acting as if" you're happy. It's contagious. _______________________________
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