Six Steps to Love Letter Success


To get you started with your writing, here are some sentences you can complete to remind you of what you want to say and how you want to say it. Do this exercise before you proceed with your letter:

1. I'm writing this letter because I:

A. had a great date
B. want to see the person again
C. want to apologize
D. want to take the next step
E. want to say "I love you" in no uncertain terms
F. want to mark an occasion

2. The thing I admire most about the person receiving this letter is:

A. his or her wit
B. his or her smile
C. the way he or she makes me feel
D. that I can trust him or her
E. his or her intellect
F. his or her lovemaking skills
G. that certain thing he or she does

3. The thing I want this person to know about me is that:

A. he or she hurt my feelings
B. he or she made my day better
C. I really like him or her
D. I'm falling in love with him or her
E. I'm uncomfortable and want to slow things down, but not stop them
F. I can write a great letter

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4. In this letter, the main thing I want to say is:

A. thank you
B. I'm sorry
C. I learned something new about you that I really like
D. I want to spend more time with you
E. I'm going to be really busy for a while; don't mistake this for a lack of interest in you
F. last night was special
G. I love you

5. I tend to be most inspired or moved by _____ so I should use that as my inspiration for my letter.

A. music
B. movies
C. books
D. poetry
E. nature
F. art
G. conversation
H. prayer

6. My partner seemed to be most moved by ____ so I should try to incorporate that into my next letter.

A. music
B. movies
C. books
D. poetry
E. nature
F. art
G. conversation
H. prayer

Excerpted from How to Write a Love Letter, © 2000 by Barrie Dolnick and Don Baack. Used with permission of Crown Publishers, a division of Random House, Inc.

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