Truth: most men like women with flesh, not just bones. That said, it's hard to stay oblivious to the message that thin is in. It's trumpeted at us from every makeup ad, movie screen and televised awards ceremony, where waif-thin models and actresses cavort for the cameras in backless gowns that show off every vertebra. Are skeletons sexy? Is Halloween Valentine's Day?
Most of the men I know prefer a woman with some meat on her bones. Calista Flockhart? She could use a piece of chicken. What man doesn't find her buxom roommate Renee sexier?
My suggestion: Learn to feel good about yourself. March right down to the local lingerie emporium and buy the slinkiest, silkiest, sassiest teddy, in bright hot scarlet, you can possibly lay your hands on. But remember, it's all about the delivery. He might find your curves attractive, but if you act like he shouldn't -- he'll start to believe you.
So, if you got it -- flaunt it. And candlelight is not cheating.
Patrizia DiLucchio has been a nurse, model, topless dancer, criminologist, postal clerk, health policy analyst, Hollywood executive, editor, writer and index entry in The Joy of Cybersex