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If you are a dude living in NYC and have a “No Fat Chicks” dating policy, then boy are you are in luck. There is a new speed dating service called “Skinny Minny Dating” that promises men (of all sizes) a gaggle of women size 8 and under to choose from. According to the site’s page:
“We all have relationship ‘deal-breakers', and that does not make us shallow, we’re just single New Yorkers that know what we want and are attracted to. Obviously there is more to it than just height or size, but for many of us that initial "attraction" factor is at least a starting point.”
I’m going to go ahead and say that if your relationship deal-breakers include a clothing size, then congratulations, you are officially shallow. If you want to be shallow that is your right but let’s not act like it’s anything else. Especially when your next paragraph says:
“According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the average clothing size for adult women in the United States is a 14, making our upcoming "Skinny Minny" night for svelte women size 0-8 anything but average. Guys, no need to worry about meeting a biggie-size chick "down-sizing" to an 8 like when you're dating on-line. We'll be checking labels at the door!”
If you want to claim non-shallowness, you might want to take a pass on using the phrase “biggie-chick down-sizing to an 8.” Just a suggestion.
There are many awful things about being fat in this society -- there is a ton of stereotyping, stigma and shame heaped on us. But you know what I don’t have to deal with? Wasting my time dating guys who would attend this event. My delightfully squishy fat is a shallow-dude deterrent. And that’s fine, because I will only date people who are brave and enlightened enough to find beauty outside the current cultural stereotype.
While I think Skinny Minny Speed Dating is sheer jackassery, I would never make the argument that it shouldn’t be allowed. Men who only want women size 0-8 and women who are willing to date men who would exclude them if they were a size 10 should be allowed to get together and talk about who-the-hell-cares-what for 10 minutes at a time. Have fun.
I do wonder how these women picture the future. Do they believe that they will never be above a size 8? Or do they believe that these men will love them for who they are -- even though they dated them for how they looked? If they get breast cancer will a man who wanted to avoid a “biggie chick downsizing” stay with a woman who has one breast? If something happens and they gain weight will they feel that their man is justified in leaving them since they broke the deal that brought them together?
I can’t answer for anyone but I can say that I’m infinitely glad that I don’t have to deal with it.