iodot: The states are community property states. My name is not on the credit cards that he is using. But can I be held liable for his debt anyway? I don't see any of that money.
susanterry: General pointers: Don't assume you know the law -- always get seek a good attorney for a consultation.
thesmartdivorce: And yes, you can be liable anyway. You need to either cancel the card or cancel your marriage.
kmiller59: How do I handle the continued relationship between the children and my ex-husband?
susanterry: What aspect of the relationship? That is HIS problem, not just yours. Be supportive to your children and let them know that you both love and care for them.
kmiller59: He left, he came back, he's now leaving again. The girls just found out that he has a girlfriend and they refuse to see her. He says it's my fault.
susanterry: Tell your girls the truth that being there is no fault ... this is a difficult time and the family has to work together on certain levels. Tell your ex not to use you and the kids like Ping-Pong balls and to do the right thing by his children.
thesmartdivorce: Talk to your husband to see if you can communicate for the benefit of your children. He may be receptive if you work slowly.
Woodgrain: We have been married twenty-four years are getting a divorce once the house sells. We both want the divorce but he is being very hateful. I cry a lot because I have to stay until the house sells. I am forty-three, have always been a mom and never had to support myself before. How do I not let him hurt me?