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CL-mizlizzy: If you feel your lawyer may not be performing as expected, what can you do? I am referring to failure returning phone calls, informing of court dates and making sure court orders are followed through.
susanterry: You should consult with another lawyer and if you determine that yours is not competent you should definitely change lawyers immediately.