CL-mizlizzy: I have $7,000 and a lot of time invested in this one.
thesmartdivorce: If your lawyer doesn't respond to the telephone, try faxing a clear message that asks for a clear response. In our book The Smart Divorce, we talk in chapter three about what are reasonable expectations from your attorney. Take a look at that. Ask questions. Don't be shy.
CL-mizlizzy: What do you recommend for people who live in small towns with "good ol' boy" legal systems? Grin and bear it? What can we do, whom do we contact?
susanterry: Get a lawyer who is one of the good ol' boys. That is absolutely the right way to win.
CL-mizlizzy: I have a protective order that has not been enforced, a call for domestic violence that was ignored and a burglary that has not been investigated -- my ex is buds with the sheriffs.
susanterry: Are you suggesting that the cops are in cahoots with your ex?
thesmartdivorce: If you continue to have a local problem, call the U.S. Attorney! (They are federal.)
susanterry: How about your local newspaper? You can shame them.
thesmartdivorce: Call everyone and put it in the local newspaper if that's what it takes!
susanterry: Pointers: The system, as some of you have found, is less than perfect. You need to get educated, read books and to get a lawyer. Don't be afraid to assert your rights; take all action that is necessary. If something isn't going right, challenge it and look elsewhere. This is important. Pointer: Child support can be collected many ways: wage assignments, executing on bank accounts or through the DA at no expense.