Singer Charlotte Church and her rugby player fiance Gavin Henson recently called it quits and now Henson is saying they split up for "the sake of" their two kids. Apparently, the pair felt that their constant arguing could be detrimental to the tots. We've heard of couple staying together for the kids, but can a break-up sometimes actually be the better parenting move?
New research suggests yes. In a survey of over 7,000 families conducted at Montclair State University, researchers found that growing up in a home full of conflict was more likely to negatively impact kids' future relationship satisfaction than when highly conflicting parents divorced. In other words, getting a divorce doesn't necessarily mean you hurt your kids' potential for future happiness, as some parents fear -- instead, it may protect them.
"The bottom line is, stress impacts our kids, and conflict causes stress," says Michele Borba, Ed.D., iVillage parenting expert and author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions. "When you see stress mounting in your kids, you have to ask yourself what's best for their well being." If you are miserable, your kids are going to feel that, too. But splitting up isn't always the answer. Borba says that many couples end up making a concerted effort to cut down on conflict in the home and that can work wonders.
"Stay together only if you can figure out how to be a respectful husband and wife to each other," says Borba. "When kids grow up in an environment where there's less stress between mom and dad, kids fare better -- they're even less likely to be depressed or anxious 20 years down the line."
Do you think its better to stay in a loveless, but civil marriage for the sake of the kids? Chime in below!