“Sexologists often recommend the ‘Squeeze Technique’ as a way to slow him down, though this isn't something a woman ought to just ‘do’ without communicating with her partner,” says Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibrations Staff Sexologist. Here's the gist: Commence sex play as usual. When he feels ejaculation is imminent, he (or his partner) squeezes the tip of his penis for a few seconds. If you do this in time, it will disrupt the reflex called ejaculatory inevitability. “Go back to playing after the ejaculatory urge has subsided, and repeat as necessary,” says Dr. Queen. Ultimately this technique should help him learn to control ejaculation himself.