I don't try. It's a lot like a [romantic] relationship, where you're supposed to aim for 50-50, but in reality, some days it's 70-30, and some days it's 90-10. What I try to do is not spin out of control too much.
How do you sneak in "me" time?
I don't get a lot, unfortunately. If I'm traveling, I make sure to bring books and catch up. I find manicure/pedicures a pain '- they're too slow for me, but that beats the purpose of going there to relax! "Alone time" for me is really just that: time alone. On the weekends, I like to go shopping '- not grocery shopping, just window-shopping '- and really try not to rush. For me, double-booking stresses me the most.
You've said you cook dinner every night. What's a typical dinner at your full house?
Well, I'm not a great cook '- a lot of what I do is "heating up." I love serving chicken nuggets, love pasta. The kids eat a lot of fish, and my oldest loves sushi '- California rolls and edamame! The boys like everything. But God knows, there's a speck of oregano on something and someone will shriek about it.
And dinner-table chats?
We ask, "What was the most fun thing you did today?" It's a way to focus the dinner a little. It's so easy to get involved in a phone call or get distracted.
Can you share some of your can't-live-without products for surviving early motherhood?
My Baby Bjorn '- I loved having my hands free. Somebody in CVS one day told me I was wearing it all wrong and helped fix it. My jogging stroller '- I guess I like things that allow me to multitask! I went through, like, 20 diaper bags, and the best one I had was cheap and light '- nothing in it aside from what you absolutely need.