Do you have any specific advice for moms of multiples?
They become really fun at 20 months old. All the stress of trying to manage two isn't as bad. They'll hold hands, they'll hug each other. You sort of emerge from the darkness, so stick it out!
Your mother is a black Cuban and your father is Australian '- what are some ways you enjoy your multiracial background and your husband's with your kids?
Soon, through travel. When the boys get older, we hope to take the kids to Australia and Cuba. The girls are starting to really understand and be curious about where Grandma's from and what she eats, and how it's different from what we eat.
I read that your whole immediate family attended Harvard! Would you like to see your children follow in your footsteps?
It does not make the slightest difference to me. There are all types of schools that are better for different personalities and interests, so I would never, ever push my children to do anything other than what they want and what inspires them.
What's your take on the overscheduled, overachieving child '- the baby learning Mandarin, prepping for that Ivy League education?
I actually think it's much ado about nothing. I never learned Mandarin, and neither did my kids, and the truth is, the best thing you can do with your children is to love them, have fun and encourage them to explore. And mostly what I've noticed is that now mothers are more interested in setting up play dates than entering their kids in pre-K SAT classes.