Good old-fashioned family values may not be dead. They've just got a new gender twist. According to an online poll of 731 parents by Parent Soup, one of the largest parenting sites on the Web, and AOL, half of the moms and dads quizzed said they think women should stay at home with their kids and not work if money isn't an issue. But a surprising 22 percent said that Dad could stay with the kiddies instead of Mom, especially if Mom earns a bigger paycheck.
The idea that Mom (or Dad) could work for personal fulfillment, instead of financial need, was given the thumbs down by many Parent Soupers.
Here's a sampling of how parents reacted when the "working when there's no financial need" question was posed:
- "While I agree that it is very important for a parent to stay home with the children whenever financially feasible, I believe that the parent with the least lucrative career should be the one responsible for staying home. In my family, my income is three times that of my husband's and my benefits are outstanding. Therefore, I continue to work while my husband plays "Mr. Mom." We are able to maintain the level of financial stability we are accustomed to."
--Mikey Ziegler (Web Parent Soup member)
- "Why bother having kids if you're going to send them to someone else to raise every day, just for the almighty dollar? What's more important: your kid's well-being and security or how many toys one has in the garage? Nobody can teach my kids values and morals better -- and love them more -- than me. The kids should come first...ALWAYS."
- "When mothers grow old, the ones with regret will be the ones who worked full-time outside the home, not the ones who SACRIFICE financially to raise their own kids."
- "I know a woman who works (and most certainly doesn't need to). (She says she) does it to get away from her children. That's heartbreaking!"
--april mae 1027 (Web)