Braveheart. If you don't have such a memory, write down the description of your perfect fantasy partner
If you are really daring, invite your partner to do this same exercise, and share what you write. Be careful not to hurt each other by spending an inordinate amount of time focusing on other people or on the attributes that turn you on that you know your lover will never match. Identifying fantasies, talking about them (if you wish) and then testing the waters to try new things will add sparkle to your nights. Be open-minded and work with your partner to reach a compromise, if necessary, regarding acting out each other's fantasies. Enrich your relationship by enlarging your mind's capacity for creative fantasy and watch how your intimate world may blossom.
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