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This topic has information about the loss of a baby after 20 weeks of pregnancy but before the baby is born. For information about pregnancy loss before 20 weeks, see the topic Miscarriage.
Stillbirth is the loss of a baby after 20 weeks of pregnancy but before the baby is born. It can happen during the pregnancy or during labor. Stillbirth occurs in about 1 out of 200 pregnancies.1
The loss of a baby is devastating and very hard to accept. You may wonder why it happened or blame yourself. But a stillbirth can happen even in a pregnancy that has been going well.
When stillbirth occurs before labor, a doctor usually delivers the baby either by giving the woman medicine to start labor or by doing surgery (cesarean section, or C-section).
In many cases, no one knows what causes stillbirth. But a cause often is found. A stillbirth may be caused by:
People go through grief in their own ways. You may cry a lot and feel angry and hopeless. You may want to blame yourself or someone else. It might be hard to eat or sleep.
You and your partner may not grieve in the same way. Each of you needs to take care of yourself in whatever way feels best. Tell your family and friends what they can do. You may want to spend time alone, or you may seek the comfort of family and friends. Try to eat healthy foods, get some sleep, and get exercise (or just get out of the house) to help you feel strong as you heal.
Talk to your doctor about how you are coping. He or she will want to watch you for signs of depression. You may want to have counseling for support and to help you express your feelings.
It may help to create a memory book of your pregnancy and baby. Many parents name their baby and want to take pictures and keep a lock of hair. The hospital may take photographs or footprints for you. Some parents have a ceremony, such as a christening or other blessing or a funeral service.
You also may want to talk to others who have gone through this loss. You can make connections online or in person:
If you have lost a baby, you may worry about a future pregnancy. But a stillbirth often happens because of a one-time event. It doesn't mean that you won't go on to have a healthy baby.
Doctors often can do exams and tests to find out why a stillbirth happened. They may examine the baby and the placenta. An autopsy is sometimes done, if the parents want it, to find the cause of death. Some parents find that this helps them by answering their questions about what happened. And it may help find out if there is any risk for a future pregnancy. A doctor also may test the parents to see if a genetic problem may have led to the stillbirth.
You can't prevent every problem. But some behaviors can increase the chance of a healthy baby. Doctors encourage women to take care of themselves before they get pregnant and during pregnancy. Eat a healthy diet that includes folic acid (especially before you are pregnant and early in the pregnancy), and get regular exercise. It's especially important to avoid alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs.
Later in pregnancy, a doctor usually will ask a woman to keep track of her baby's kicks and call right away if the baby is moving less than before.
Talk to your doctor about when he or she thinks you can try to get pregnant again. Some doctors may suggest that women wait 2 or 3 months. Others may think it's best to wait longer. It depends on how quickly your body heals and on what was done to help deliver the baby. For example, if you had a C-section to deliver the baby, the uterus needs more time to heal.
You also may want to make sure that you and your family are emotionally ready to try again to get pregnant.
| By: | Healthwise Staff | Last Revised: April 18, 2011 |
| Medical Review: | Sarah Marshall, MD - Family Medicine Femi Olatunbosun, MB, FRCSC - Obstetrics and Gynecology | |
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