7. Voice your appreciation for your partner. Again, be specific.
Following these steps may help you crack your shell and feel more expansive in your relationship. Other possible avenues of help are to talk with a friend, be in a support group, read books on relationships or spirituality, or seek counseling. You can also talk with friends. Just having contact with a wide range of people increases the odds that someone will say something helpful about your situation or open your mind to new perspective.
From If the Buddha Married, copyright © Charlotte Davis Kasl, 2001. All rights reserved. Reprinted by permission of Pengui USA, a division of Penguin Putnam, Inc.