Dirty talk can be a serious turn on — but it can also be seriously intimidating. For answers on how to do it right, we went to the most passionate lady we could think of: Pat Davis, CEO of Passion Parties, Inc. In this excerpt from her book The Passion Parties Guide to Great Sex, she debunks a few common concerns about dirty talk, provides real sample phrases to work with and even gives some options for the truly timid.
What's the difference between just talking about sex and "dirty talk" — or, as we like to call it around here, passion chat? Well, talking about sex is figuring out with your guy what either of you — or both of you — would like. It's having an adult discussion about your preferences and dislikes, while guiding each other in a helpful way. But then there's also passion chat — what some people call "talking dirty" or "naughty talk" — the kind of language that in the bedroom or on the phone can help arouse either or both of you and make the whole act more exciting.