Lots of people of both sexes find passion chat intimidating, and if you really hate the whole idea of doing this, or if you can't stand the version of it that turns your partner on, of course you have the right to say no. But before you write off the idea of dirty talk entirely, maybe give it a try. As with so many sexual activities, learning that you can do it, you're good at it, and you can make your partner happy with it might easily turn an act that seemed daunting and distasteful into one that now seems delightful and delicious.
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Think about it. You murmur a few words into his ear, and he begins to pant with desire… You keep talking, and he gets more and more aroused… Now he really wants you, but you say, "Not quite yet." You just keep whispering, as he wants you more, and more, and more… See what I mean? That could be something you just might learn to like! And if you're the one who wants your guy to use some passion chat with you? Talk him through the basics if he's having trouble. Don't expect him to already know how to go about this, and don't make him feel bad for doing it the wrong way. One little "Eew! Disgusting!" — however well deserved — will keep him quiet in the bedroom for a long, long time to come.