Straight Talk on Dirty Talk

"Okay, let me tell you exactly what I'd like you to do to me. First, I want you to kiss me so passionately and deeply that I start getting wet… Then I want you to trace your finger down my belly and slide your hand inside my panties."

Talking about what you'd like is always a good start, and it has the added advantage of helping him know what you want. If you go this route, be sure to tell him not only what you like but also how it makes you feel. An added bonus of this kind of passion chat is that it can help you feel more turned-on, as well. For example:

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I want you to touch my breasts and play with the nipples… just a little… not too much… Ooh, I'm starting to get excited… Now I want you to pinch them a little bit — not too hard… Oh, that feels so good, I can hardly stand it…

One great technique for passion chat is to take your cue from what he's actually doing, and then you can describe — as explicitly as you can — what it feels like. Have you ever noticed that saying things like "I'm exhausted" or "Wow, this tastes good!" can actually make you feel more tired or more contented? Well, it works the same way with sex. Saying that you're excited can make you feel more excited. For example:

I love it when you get really hard. I can feel you deep inside me… deeper… deeper Can you feel how I'm holding you in there… so tight… because I want you right there. Yes!

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