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Stress Management: Doing Meditation
Getting ready
- Choose a time and place where you can meditate without being interrupted. Try to find a quiet place, but don't worry if there are some noises, such as traffic. That kind of noise is just part of the present moment.
- When you start, try to meditate for only 10 minutes at a time. Then you can increase the time bit by bit. You can also try meditating for 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes in the evening.
- Before you sit down, remind yourself that you are there to focus on the present moment. This may help keep your mind from wandering. Your daily routine and other distractions will all be waiting for your attention after your meditation session.
The practice
- Sit in a comfortable position, either in a chair or on the floor. Or lie down, if that is more comfortable. You can close your eyes, or you can look down, keeping your gaze a few inches in front of you on the floor.
- As you sit, start to pay attention to your breathing. This is a good way to focus your attention on what is happening right now. Don't try to change your breathing. Just notice how it feels in your lungs and chest.
- If your mind wanders, don't worry or feel bad about yourself. Try to notice your thoughts, such as "I wonder what I will need to do at my 10 a.m. work meeting.” Then let the thought go, and bring your focus back to the present moment and your breathing. You may do this over and over again during a meditation session. That’s okay.
- During your meditation, you may feel certain emotions, such as anger, impatience, sadness, or happiness. Don't try to hold on to or let go of these feelings. They are part of your experience of the present moment. Keeping your attention on your breathing will help you stay focused and not get lost in the thoughts that your feelings may trigger. For example, if you feel impatient to finish the meditation so you can start the laundry, see if you can focus on the feeling of the impatience rather than thoughts of the laundry. Where do you feel the impatience in your body? Does it feel tight? Does it affect your breathing?
Test Your Knowledge
If my mind wanders during my meditation, I must be doing something wrong.
TrueMeditation is a practice. And part of that practice means being kind and patient with yourself and returning your focus to the present moment. This process of returning your attention to the present moment can happen over and over again during a meditation session.
FalseMeditation is a practice. And part of that practice means being kind and patient with yourself and returning your focus to the present moment. This process of returning your attention to the present moment can happen over and over again during a meditation session.
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| By: | Healthwise Staff | Last Revised: May 11, 2010 |
| Medical Review: | Kathleen Romito, MD - Family Medicine Lisa S. Weinstock, MD - Psychiatry | |
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