The Surrendered Wife: Would You Try It?

Excerpted from The Surrendered Wife

Would you consider being a surrendered wife? Take a look at five of Laura Doyle's exercises, and try them for yourself.

Give up control to have more power

Stop telling your husband what to do, what to wear, what to say and how to do things, even if you think you're helping. As much as possible, mind your own business. Recognize that when your urge to control him comes up, you may be feeling fear that isn't appropriate to the situation.

Write down five situations where you have been controlling with your husband recently. For each situation, ask yourself what it was you were afraid would happen. Was your fear realistic? What was the worst-case scenario? Did needing to control the situation justify losing intimacy with your husband? Practice facing your fear and relinquishing control of your husband to create room for intimacy, and to become the best person you can be.

Express your desires

Don't hesitate to tell your husband what you want, whether it's a vacation, new furniture, piano lessons for the kids, time to yourself or even a baby. But make sure you are describing an end result, not telling him how to do it.

When you tell your husband what you want without telling him when, why and how you want him to get it -- without controlling him -- you are giving him a new opportunity to feel accomplished and proud about how happy he makes you.

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