Switch from daycare to preschool

My son turned 3 in June and is presently in a day-care situation in a woman's home with four other children. one the same age and two that are younger.

He is extremely happy there, unlike his former day-care where he cried every day. I am happy because Suzanne takes great care of them and is reading books, playing music, doing arts and crafts and all kinds of fun and educational activity.

I am starting to get pressure from friends and family that it's time to put my son into a pre-school but he's so happy right now it just seems unnecessary. I'm thinking of sending him to a nursery school when he is four. Should I be worried that he will be at a disadvantage if he doesn't go to a pre-school sooner? What will he get there that he is not getting where he is?

Thank you in advance for your reply.

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Dear Joyce,

From the description you gave of your son's situation, I can't think of a good reason to switch to a pre-school. Your son sounds very happy. He is certainly getting the social stimulation that children need at three. If he needs to learn to get along in a larger group of children, it is a lesson he can learn next year in a fours classroom in pre-school.

It is unnecessary to concentrate on academics at the early age of three. It sounds as if your daycare provider is doing a good job providing the kind of stimulation needed for her students. What children really need to learn at three isn't academic: it is that school is fun; that they can get along with other children and with grown-ups who aren't their relatives; and the other details of community life such as waiting their turn, sharing, etc.

Everything else can certainly wait until four. Remember: this is advice from a pre-school teacher with 20 years' experience!

Best of luck,
Patti Greenberg Wollman

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