Finding the Right Time to Talk
"I am 61, raising two grandkids ages 12 and 15. I have found those 'drive me' times are good times to get them to talk, maybe the sound of the car relaxes them. I had a really good talking time with the 15-year-old the other night. First one in a long time."
~ Parent Soup member Kjbmajk
Answering Tough Questions
"I had a very uncomfortable experience last week. While driving around doing errands, my nine-year-old son was reading the Newsweek in the back seat and asked me: 'What does p-r-o-s-t-i-t-u-t-i-o-n spell and what does it mean?' My immediate reaction (after I collected myself) was to want to simply tell him that it was something that he didn't need to know about at his age. But I knew I couldn't simply brush him off. I explained to him in very simple terms that it pertained to people who have sex in exchange for money. I told him it was illegal. He seemed to accept my explanation and didn't have other questions, but I was absolutely floored that I was having this discussion with my nine-year-old son."
~ Parent Soup member franmarcia
Letting Our Children Solve Some of Their Own Problems
"Sometimes we can be our children's worst handicap. My daughter is 21 and in a board and care home for the disabled. When she was growing up it was always much easier to just dress her. So I would always dress her, using the justification that she could not dress herself. Imagine how I felt months after she had been in the first home and they said they were waiting for her to finish dressing herself. Maybe she was a little sloppy and the buttons were not always in the right hole, but she did it herself. So in just doing for her, I was not helping her, but hurting her. Children learn by example. If they see you and your husband fighting all the time how is that going to teach them how to resolve their problems in a healthy way. In your guidance and love you can teach them all of these principles."
~ Parent Soup member LOLOTOUPIN