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Reputation and Image: Reputations are a by-product of constant gossiping and, good or bad, they trap girls. There are various ways a girl gets a reputation. Other girls and boys gossip about her, then she's labeled. The social hierarchy and a girl's clique can protect a girl from a bad reputation. For example, a girl in the popular clique can duck a reputation as a slut even if she's frequently having sex. In contrast, if a girl who isn't liked by other girls gets that reputation, it will stick. What are the different reputations? Jock, Tomboy, Loner Morose Girl, Social Climber, Teacher's Pet, Boyfriend Stealer, Perfect Girl, Tease, Square, Slut, to name a few.
What do you think about gossip and teasing among girls?
Teasing and Gossiping: How to Talk to Your Daughter
Choosing when and how to confront teasing and gossiping is always difficult. Many parents are tempted to tell their daughters to ignore the teasing and it will stop or the gossips will move on to someone else. Even though this sounds like a reasonable strategy, it's exactly the kind of parental advice that makes girls feel that their parents don't understand the world they're living in. When girls have problems, they need help right away. If your daughter is a target, have a conversation with her about it. You want to affirm her and confirm that you're a good resources and a nonjudgemental listener. Then help her come up with realistic strategies to confront the problem effectively. Options include: