Techniques for Sensational Sex

I believe there are many roads to Rome -- and to multiple orgasms. By freeing ourselves of inhibitions, releasing old beliefs about our sexual capacities and learning the skills necessary, we can reach sexual ecstasy again and again, all in the same night.

First, it's important to set your mind at ease and get into the mood for sex to happen. Clear your mind of the thoughts of the day -- stop that inner chatter and focus on being about to receive your due pleasure. Turn off the telephone and make time for you. Whether alone or with a sexual partner, sex is sex. Masturbation or self-pleasuring is a sexual outlet in its own right and one to be enjoyed to the max if Mr. (or Ms.) Right is not in the picture right now. Most of these tips are for the couple, but you can follow them alone if that's your status right now.

Set the mood

Start with sensual time, alone or with him (or her). Run a bath and light candles while pouring in your favorite bubbles and scent. I recommend aromatherapy salts (found in most department and bath stores) to stimulate moods and relax the body, mind and spirit. Put relaxing and romantic music on the CD player, set aside some soothing body lotion or oils (natural is best) and dive into the warmth of the water for relaxation time. If your lover is with you, even better. This is a terrific way to relax together and get into the mood for lovemaking. You might give each other a back scrub or rub-a-dub-dub in all the right places, to allow those tight muscles to soften and to get your heads into gear for the delicious road ahead.

Couples report to me that there really is nothing to match a sensual massage for letting go and coming together. Take your turns to give and to receive this touch -- softly, firmly, gently, slowly -- to produce even more relaxation. Remember that great sex usually only occurs in relaxed bodies, so take the time to prepare yourself.

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