Know thy genitals
Renowned sex educator Betty Dodson advises that all women (and men) should spend time at least once learning about their own anatomy. By sitting naked in front of a mirror and visually exploring your own landscape, you will find answers to your own questions about how you look and maybe how and why you do or don't work to your sexual capacity. Notice where your clitoris is; how the hood covers it; how your clitoral shaft protrudes; how low the opening to your vagina sits; whether your outer lips are fatty and cover you up or whether you are baring all to the wind.
Many women who have trouble getting to their single or multiple orgasms are those with a delicate, perhaps barely noticeable, clitoral hood or covering. If so, some may have shut down their sexual reactions to being touched there, as a way to dampen the continual sensations that they originally felt as girls or young women. Just as men must learn to ignore the signals from the clothes rubbing against their crotch, girls also learn to turn on or off according to what's necessary. By reframing those thoughts and learning to reassociate that part of the body with pleasure and being "on," women can redirect their orgasmic potential.