Is There a Breakup in Your Future?

Don't give more time, energy or attention to the men you're dating than they're giving back to you.

Remember: Men fall in love through the process of doing. They need to build a nest around you to mark their territory and to make the relationship their own. If you're always one step ahead of them, they'll feel unappreciated, unnecessary and even emasculated. This dynamic will not result in the torrid sex that you deserve!

Romantic Rule: Overgiving short-circuits the male coupling instinct! If your man has become romantically lazy, it's probably because your overabundant giving has drowned his desire to win and woo.

When you're stuck in quick sand, the more you do, the deeper you'll sink.

At this juncture many women sink even deeper by mistakenly thinking that they're not doing enough to please their man. In a panic, they redouble their winsome efforts in a misguided attempt to revive his ardor and attention.

The only way to get unstuck is to stop acting like Santa in a mini. When he finally calls you again (and trust me, they always always call again), let him take you you to dinner, let him pick up the check and let him give you oral sex. The only thing you're allowed to do is enjoy yourself, and the only things you're allowed to say are, "A little to the left," "Yes, right there!" and "Thank you!"

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