Photo Credit: Courtesy Tia Mowry
In her exclusive blog for the iVillage series CelebVillage, actress Tia Mowry -- who stars on the Style Network reality show Tia & Tamera -- reveals the tough time she had when she first returned to work two months after the birth of her 16-month-old son Cree (with actor husband Cory Hardrict).
Proud to be a WOMAN! I am woman! It does not stop there. I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, granddaughter and friend.
After Cree was born, I had to report back to work two months after giving birth. I had to finish writing my book Oh Baby, finish shooting scenes of the first season of Tia & Tamera on the Style Network and then head out to Atlanta to shoot my last season of my television show The Game.
Let me just say, my first day away from my son was hell! I am sorry, there is no better word! I cried all day long. I kept telling myself, "I can't do this. More importantly, why am I doing this? Am I a horrible mother?"
Let's not even talk about the first time I had to leave my son to go out of state. I had to take a quick flight to New York for press on Tia & Tamera and I remember looking at myself saying, "OMG, Tia, you gotta get it together."
Trust me, it was a horrible. Cree was the one chilling, looking at Momma like she was crazy, while I was the one having a bad case of separation anxiety! Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? I mean, let's get this straight, my son is the one that is supposed to be wailing and screaming, NOT me.
Embarrassed by my own behavior, I talked to a friend who is also a mother and asked if she felt the same way. Her answer was, "OF COURSE!"
Phew, I am not crazy after all! Well, maybe a little -- she didn't mention hyperventilating! However, she did bring up a good point. She informed me that just because you are now a mother doesn't mean you should ignore all the other amazing things you get to be as a woman. We have so many facets to our personalities.
We are not only mothers, but sisters, wives, best friends, daughters, granddaughters, grandmothers, businesswomen and entrepreneurs, to just name a few! Just because we've embraced this new role as a mother, doesn't necessarily mean we have to lose our identities of what we were before we were mothers. More importantly, we had dreams, goals and aspirations.
Now I go to work feeling a little different -- no more tears… okay, I'm lying, maybe a few tears. Hey, I never said I was superwoman! However, now I've changed my perspective about leaving my child for work. I go to work to better my son's life -- OUR lives -- and to set an example for him.
With that said, do I still feel guilty when I leave my son for a girls' night out with the best friend, date night with hubby or even work? Yes, and unfortunately, I really don't think the guilt will ever go away. But at least now I can breathe.
What was your day like when you first left your baby to report to work? Do you still feel guilty? Do you have date nights and girls night out? I'd love to know!
Actress Tia Mowry stars on the reality show Tia & Tamera, airing Tuesdays at 9 p.m. ET on Style. Follow her on Twitter at @TiaMowry. And click here to read more exclusive posts in the CelebVillage series!
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