Refrain from playing psychologist. While it might seem obvious to you why your friend's relationship is on the rocks, now is not the time to offer your theories (even though you are just positive that her husband is a sex addict or that he was on a power/ego trip like Woods). Instead, direct her to the care of a good therapist. "Look into counseling, therapy and other support services that she can rely on," says Fulbright.
Give her sanctuary. Whether it's a mansion in Sweden or a fold-out couch in your living room, provide your friend or relative with a place where she can be by herself (or with her kids) and take the time she needs to plot her next move. Even if she chooses to stay in her home, let her know she has options.
And remember, as the friend or relative of a woman betrayed, you can share your own stories and lessons learned, but at the end of the day, the decision to stay or to go rests on her shoulders.
Ronnie Koenig writes about sex and relationships for Penthouse, Redbook, Self and other national magazines, and is the former editor-in-chief of Playgirl. Visit her online at RonnieKoenig.com.
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