19 Tips for Getting Past the Pain of a Partner's Infidelity

If You Choose to Rebuild the Relationship

"Beware of the 'honeymoon stage. A lot of betrayed couples go through a period of bliss right after they decide to 'work things out.' A sort of euphoria comes on, but it is simply false security, because the roller coaster ride often comes next. The happy honeymoon stage can last from 2 days to 10 months, but eventually you will have to live in reality -- tough times and all." --cl-Jill.2

"If you need to know where your spouse is at all times, that's okay. He betrayed you and you are hurting. Just ask for extra reassurance. An extra phone call or having the key to his office can help. If he really wants to repair your relationship, he's got to be willing to share the details of his life, no matter how small." --dorsini

If You Choose to Let Your Spouse Go

"Don't look at your husband's leaving as your life ending -- it can be a new beginning. After 17 years together, my husband left me, and I felt so alone, scared and angry. I found out I can do things I thought I never could, and a new, more self-confident, peaceful me emerged." --superjagfan

"It's hard, but stop yourself from wondering if he will come home. Focus on yourself (and your kids). Do things that you like to do -- shop, take walks, long baths, whatever makes you feel good! If you have kids, make special time to be with them." --anonymous

"Explain the situation to your children if they are old enough to understand what's happening. Tell them that you are still available to them, and that you need their support, too. Kids are perceptive, and they'll see through any lies." --stitcher2000

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