Too Hot For Sex?

Interestingly, I have been hearing from couples where one or both are feeling less in the mood for sex, and the reason seems to be that it is simply too hot. How can you be too hot for sex?!?! 

Well, actually there are some people who really dislike sweating or feeling overheated. For them, feeling warm and then touching bodies makes them feel like they are melting and miserable. For some people, sweating is really part of the fun of the exertion of sex-- the messier the better. For others, covered in sweat is a big turn off. This can be a matter of personal fastidiousness, sensitive nose, embarrassment created by sweating, or feelings that a hot flash is being exacerbated by closeness.

If your partner's desire seems to have gone down as the temperature goes up, you might want to ask them about their feelings on the heat. The good news is that there are options to help out.

Sex in the water does away with the whole concern about sweat and heat. In the shower, in the tub, a pool, the ocean...you get the idea!  Blasting the air conditioning in one room just prior to bedtime is another way to go.  It may be 80 degrees everywhere else, but for an hour it can be 70 degrees wherever you plan to make whoopee.

For those for whom fastidiousness is an overall issue, this could be the opportunity to desensitize yourself to sweat:  Just go for it and see that sweat can be fun!

Any other suggestions out there?  I'd love to hear how you beat the heat.

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