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"It was bittersweet as she uttered the word, 'dada,''' she writes on ToriSpelling.com. "I'm sure that mamas everywhere can agree that I wouldn't be human if somewhere inside, beneath the beaming pride I felt about her accomplishment, there wasn't a little sadness that he first word wasn't 'mama.'"
Kudos to Spelling for her honesty: I think many mamas want to be seen as 'first' in the eyes of our kids. Spelling explains that as their third child, Hattie was her tie-breaker with hubby Dean McDermott. Their oldest, son Liam, cutely babbled 'dada' first, and has been a daddy's boy ever since, while older daughter Stella said 'mama' out of the gate (and next uttered 'shoes' -- too cute). So that left Hattie. "She was the toss-up," Spelling explained. "For seven months, she’s been our little neutral party. Or so I thought!"
My son's first word was "dada" too, but since he is a total mama's boy, I chalked that up to the fact that experts say the "d" sound in "dada" is easier to say than the "m" in "mama." It's challenging at times, like when my son insists that "only Mommy" should change his dirty diaper, but I beam every time he thrusts his hand in my direction so I'll hold it in the parking lot. We have our second child on the way, and I know it'll be a little tough on me if she's a daddy's girl.
Of course, it's not a competition -- and I know all kids go through phases where they prefer one parent over the other (and that it changes all the time) -- but I still think about it. Lucky for Spelling, she's expecting again, too, so she has one more shot to even the score. Not that she's keeping track or anything...