Tough talks: Talking about love and sex


If you communicate early on about their feelings for another person, they will continue to come to you to talk about love, sex and STDs. Let the "kids talk" in this article be an education to us all. Remember puppy love is only for puppies.

Middle Years

Kids go through a wide range of development between the ages of 6 to 10. At age six it is common to see kids talking, laughing and teasing about cooties and boy/girl germs. But as they age, kids begin to explore with games like kissing tag. Now is the time to begin developing communication about love and sex. In this age group most children will leam either through school programs or friends what sex is. Many times a child is wrongly informed, making your clarification important.

Don't wait for your child to come to you. You are the parent; lead the way.


At the ages of 11 and 12, the boy and girl germs are gone and curiosity prevails. Kids at this age often start forming boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.

Some children begin puberty at this age and become curious about their bodies and their feelings.

Statistics show more and more youth are becoming sexually active at early ages and it is not uncommon for 11 to 14-year-olds to have their first intimate encounter, whether it be sex or intimate touching.

Refer to What Your Children Need to Know and make sure all those bases are covered. Remember with the world we're living in, sex can be suicide in the shadow of AIDS.


Teens are swamped with messages about sex. They learn more and more from both peers and classes in school. They are often allowed to go to movies that portray sex and watch shows containing sexually explicit content.

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