Translating Man-Speak: What He Is Really Trying to Tell You

University of Houston psychologists investigating why men keep things bottled up found it was to maintain power in a relationship -- when they don't talk, their partner is left guessing. You do the same and he'll be putty in your hands.

Men don't want to talk about the relationship. They just want to do it (in his mind, if he didn't love you, he'd leave). Here's how he thinks: "If we need to talk about the relationship, it must be broken. If it's broken, it means it's doomed. I'm outta here."

A man will say, "I'm fine," even when being tortured by Zulu warriors. It's in his nature not to reveal weakness because that betrays vulnerability, which comes off as lack of status, according to research by evolutionary psychologist David Buss. In short, he's worried you'll think he's a weed if he can't solve his problems without his Superwoman girlfriend coming to his aid.

How to Know He Loves You

There are certain words his tongue seems to trip over -- like "girlfriend," "love" and "commitment." But since men are action-driven, it's really more important what he does than what he says.You know your man really loves you if he:

  • Lets you drive his car (especially his new SUV)
  • Assumes you're spending the weekend together
  • Introduces you to his friends
  • Stops wearing his "If you're not wasted, the day is" T-shirt, because he knows you hate it
  • Calls for absolutely no reason
  • Wants to talk after sex
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