Ask yourself if the resolution you set is really something you want to do, or if it’s something you feel you like you have to do. We often make resolutions based on what others think which can cause us to eventually ditch them and go back to doing what we actually want to do, says Lois Barth, a human development coach and trainer. If you pick a goal that's genuinely about who you are, it offers a sense of real satisfaction, says Barth. For instance, if you’re painfully , you may want to overcome your introversion because it stops you from meeting new people. A goal or resolution based on what you wantmay take awhile before it becomes integrated, but it can offer real fulfillment, she says.