4. Make a Schedule
It's easier for people to help if you have a schedule they can see. Make a list of the things you do at (somewhat) regular times each day and put it on the wall. Work toward getting the babies on the same sleeping and feeding schedule. When friends offer to help, suggest they:
- Come at bath time to bathe one of the babies.
- Help out at feeding time -- feeding one of the babies.
- Clean the kitchen.
- Bring dinner or a frozen casserole to be heated up later.
- Go shopping for you or run errands.
- Take the babies' brother(s) or sister(s) out for an outing.
- Care for the babies while you sleep. And if your day isn't going right, drop everything and take the babies out for a walk. Fresh air can make everyone feel better.
5. Help Each Other
If you have a parenting partner, help each other. Having twins is hard on relationships. Talking about your feelings can help you and your partner to understand it is hard work caring for twins. You may be tired or in need of time alone. It helps to tell each other what you need.
6. Get Time Alone or Time Together
Plan a regular time for you and your parenting partner to be together without the babies. Go for a walk, out for breakfast, to the park. Go dancing, to a movie, or listen to music. Make a permanent baby-sitting arrangement for this and go even if you're too tired.
If you have older children, do something with them alone once a month or so. They need time off from the babies too.