And make time for you alone. Get a friend, neighbor, or relative to watch the babies for an hour or two and:
- Take a walk.
- Take a long bath.
- Make that call you never have time for.
- Go shopping.
- Do something that makes you feel cared for.
7. Establish Boundaries
You can expect your family to be just as excited and fascinated by your twins as outsiders will be. This can be helpful when grandmothers, aunts, brothers, etc. offer to help with the work. But it can also be a hindrance if they offer unwanted advice and criticism at the same time.
Welcome the help of your family if you enjoy their support. But set limits when and where you need it. Start this early so things don't get out of hand, and keep in mind that it is your right to raise your family the way you want to. What worked for them may not work for you.
People are fascinated by twins. They also have some strange ideas about twins. They may stop you on the street and ask, "Which one is the smart one?" You can get worn out trying to respond to everything that's said. Smile, and push on! Their comments don't have anything to do with you.
This information is based on Twinline's work and discussion with hundreds of parents of twins and from our understanding of current research on the twin relationship.
Reprinted with permission from Twin Services, Parent Education Series 200: #215, 1983. This article may be printed out for personal use but may not be reproduced in any other manner, including electronic, without prior written consent from Twin Services. For more information, call 510-524-0863.