CL-mizlizzy: Welcome to "COUNTDOWN TO CHANGE," with special guest Patricia Evans, author of Verbal Abuse: Survivors Speak Out and The Verbally Abusive Relationship, where we'll find out how to recognize and respond to verbal abuse.
Patricia_Evans: Hello everyone. I'm just delighted to be able to be here to talk with you about verbal abuse issues. I've heard from thousands of women who are very concerned about this issue, personally and with regard to their friends. Verbal abuse is insidious and endemic in our culture. Most people don't realize how many kinds of abuse they might experience.
lisa0765: Personally I think that women are verbally abused and are often not even aware of it until they are physically abused.
Patricia_Evans: Most recognize name-calling, but aren't so clear about blaming, accusing, discounting and so forth. We'll learn more here tonight. I'm sure I will learn from you. We will find out why defense usually doesn't work. Explaining can be a trap. Let's find out more.
Cmtdarden: Up first is Tracy_13 for a question.
Tracy_13: I am in a relationship now. It is verbally abusive and sometimes physical. I am setting boundaries that don't seem to be working. What do you suggest?
Patricia_Evans: Tracy_13, it's very important to have outside support. If possible, attend a group through a local shelter. And if possible, have a friend or relative stay at the house.
Tracy_13: I do that already, Patricia. I am trying to leave him, but it's not that easy.