Patricia_Evans: Maybe check with your counselor so that you are clear that this person respects you.
RKMN: He does respect me and supports all I have been through.
Patricia_Evans: RKMN, I hope he stays supportive. Watch for any signs if and when you become engaged or live together, because that's when some men change.
RKMN: We live together now and there's no change.
Tracy_13: That's when mine changed.
Cmtdarden: Up next is freakyfairy.
Freakyfairy: I have been separated from my husband for several months. At first he was in another relationship. Once it ended, he wanted to get back with me. He became forceful and insulting -- bordering on verbal abuse -- telling me no one else would want me. I became somewhat involved with someone online, and he became irate and made threats. He said he wouldn't pay the phone bill and he threatened to trash my computer. How do I break this tie with him? How do I make it clear that it's over, that we're getting divorced and he needs to stop harassing me? Lately he has gotten really bad. He tells me I am ugly and no one else will love me, that he is my only chance. How do I make him stop? I would like to eventually have another relationship, but I can't until he leaves me alone.
Patricia_Evans: Freakyfairy, change your phone number and get a P.O. box. Get someone to check your mail and toss anything that comes from him. Move if you have to. Give him an attorney or a trusted friend's contact number.
Freakyfairy: The thing is, HE owns the house I live in and HE pays the bills.