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"For the first time in my life, I thought, 'Maybe I would like to get married and have kids,'" Vince Vaughn told iVillage about his inspiration for his new comedy, Couples Retreat. The 39-year-old actor, who got engaged in March to Calgary real estate agent Kyla Weber, wrote the movie about six couples who undergo involuntary couples therapy in order to discover "what makes a marriage work." iVillage spoke with Vaughn about relationship advice ("Just have fun"), whether couples should go to therapy and why he's enjoying being engaged.
Why did you want to tell this story?
There's been so many romantic comedies that are just about one relationship, and I thought, "Boy it'd be funny to do a movie about a group of couples." I know for myself when my good friends get girlfriends it's always nice when everyone gets along with each other. So I wanted to pick regular people, give them all a different kind of relatable problem. And then I always heard of these corporate retreats where they go and they do trust falls or potato sack races, or all these extreme things which are supposedly supposed to make you a better team or sales force. It just seems kind of funny to me. It made me laugh. So I thought, "What if there was a couples retreat -- like what they do for corporations -- for relationships and couples?"
What was your inspiration for Dave and Ronnie, the couple played by you and Malin Akerman?
Here's a couple who, on the surface, appear to really be succeeding at all the things you're supposed to. They're doing a good job taking care of the kids, they're working, they're lucky enough to have a job with an income coming in, and they're renovating their house. So the fun to me was to have that shoe drop when they get to the island and they realize maybe their relationship isn't perfect. And they realize maybe they don't have to solve all the problems and figure everything out. Maybe it's important to pick some time to get together and just have fun, just laugh, just have a good time together.
The banter between the men and women in this film is hilarious.
It's that dynamic of men and women that's just fun -- one of my favorite scenes that we did in The Break-Up was the scene where she [Brooke, played by Vaughn's ex-girlfriend Jennifer Aniston] wants the twelve lemons [to create a centerpiece, but Gary (Vaughn) only brings her three]. Then there's, "I want you to want to do dishes." [Watch the clip here.] So it's that conversation where there's a miscommunication. That's why in all my movies with my female counterparts, whether it was The Break-Up with Aniston or Wedding Crashers with Isla [Fisher], it's really a ping-pong match and there's fun back-and-forth. It's that dynamic that makes me laugh where we can sort of laugh at ourselves and see ourselves in those moments.
Do you feel all couples should go to therapy?
No, I don't. I feel like if it works for you and it's something you like, then I think that's great. But I don't think it's a good thing to do. Sometimes I think analyzing and talking about something all the time, you can't turn the page and move past it.
You have a project in development called Male Doula. The title sounds hilarious. What can you tell us about it?
It's about a guy who is with a woman and they start to go to these doula classes and the woman leaves him and he comes to find out the child wasn't even his. And he's really devastated because he loved her and wanted it to work out, but he really did enjoy the doula classes and he feels like he's found his calling and maybe that life led him there because he's meant to be a doula. And the woman who runs the shop tries to explain to him that no one wants a male doula, because it's a very private moment and girls aren't comfortable. And he says, "I got nowhere else to go. This is it. This is where I'm supposed to be."
How do you find time for yourself between all your projects?
Right now I'm engaged, so I'm excited about that chapter of my life and so I've just been enjoying that relationship.